E-Mail Subject: Tzitzis and the Heart
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1264  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
Editor’s Note: So... why should you guard your eyes?
Torah: Tzitzis & the Heart
Sayings: recovery one day at a time
Links: Caught by a predator
Personal Stories: From Bondage to Freedom
Announcements: Unwanted Same Sex Attraction - Real or Imagined?
 
 
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Editor’s Note
 
So... why should you guard your eyes?

When you walk down the street with somebody, you can tell something about him if his eyes are always straying to upstairs windows. What business does he have looking into windows of houses that he passes by? It’s a bad habit. You don’t look where you’re not expected to look... 

If you’re careless with your looking, then someday you’re going to see the wrong thing. — Guideline to Torah (#120)

Rabbi Avigdor Miller

Torah
 
Tzitzis & the Heart
 
By YVY

Torah taken to heart creates a spiritual light that shines within a person. Tzitzis has a similar effect, but on the body. Tzitzis creates a protective light around a person's body and even effects their thoughts. The Bracha on the Talis (the Arizal would make this Bracha on Tzitzis too) is "Lhisatef BaTzitzis", because the effect of Tzitzis is Misatef - it completely surrounds the body. This is why the Seforim say it's an Inyan to wear Tzitzis at night too - not to break this protection. The Mitzvah of Tzitzis corresponds to a fulfillment of all Mitzvos because its effect is all encompassing, on all parts of the body. The famous story of the man who was meticulous with Tzitzis who was saved from Aveirah in Menachos 44a supports this idea.

In these 2 ways we are protected from the thoughts of the heart, and avoiding this Lo Sa'seh is within our reach if we allow Hashem's Torah and the special Mitzvah of Tzitzis to enter our heart, our bloodstream, and completely envelop us. To the degree that we do this we will be protected - that is Hashem's promise.

The question I and many others have had, is how can I have impure thoughts if I learn Torah, if I know that Hashem is always watching? What happened to the special power of Torah to protect us from this? "Hamaor Shebah Machziro L'Mutav." Has all my Torah learning helped? Why am I still spinning with impure thoughts and actions?

The answer is that Torah does have a special power to keep us pure, but not if it only remains in the mental state, as thoughts in our mind. For Torah to protect us it must enter the heart, it must make an emotional connection. I think that's why Chazal compare Torah to a Tavlin - a medical remedy. Medicine has an effect when it enters our bloodstream - when the heart pumps it throughout the entire body. If it remains localized, it has little effect. If we connect with Torah emotionally, not just as a mental activity, then the medicinal powers of Torah will rid us of all impurities in thought, and consequently in action.

Sayings
 
I hope you are in recovery one day at a time, rather than just "holding on" one day at a time.
 
Links
 

This is a heart-wrenching story of abduction, perpetrated by the over-the-internet predator.

It features tips for parents to protect their children from falling into a similar trap.

Please note: this link will take you to a site outside of GYE network. We have vetted this link and found it to not contain any objectionable imagery. Nonetheless, viewer discretion is advised.

Caught by a predator
Personal Stories
 
From Bondage to Freedom
 
If you are addicted to Pornography, please read my story. Maybe through my long and difficult journey, others will learn to break free as well.
 
By the.guard

Quick Intro: I was born and raised religious and have been known for the last 15 years as a Erliche Chassidishe Yid, married with children.

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Announcements
 
Unwanted Same Sex Attraction - Real or Imagined?
 

Special Announcement for Duvid Chaim's phone conference.

Jonathan, Certified Life Coach will be joining us on

Duvid Chaim's 12-Step phone conference

12 PM EST - Thursday June 11th.

The theme of the call:

Unwanted Same Sex Attraction - Real or Imagined?

What can be done?

Our GYE In-House Expert with more that 7 years of helping men overcome same-sex attractions (along with a multiple addictions) will share important insights into this often shunned and shameful attraction.

Addressing and answering questions about Homosexuality as:

How does SSA develop?

Isnt it normal for me to admire and be attracted to another man?

How does this attraction fit into my Sexaholism?

Is there overlap?

And what are the Tools that are used in the Healing Process?

Whether you personally experience SSA or not, please join us on this important Call to learn more about this serious issue!

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If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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