Leave it behind
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Giving till we take
Do you really think it's fair for Hashem to create us to live through this difficult life just because He wants to give to us? I don't think it is. I don't think I should have to be here just because He wants to give. I find that selfish. "Unwilling to take"

Dear Unwilling,

What if your best friend told you the following:

"I have a secret that I want to share with you because you are my best friend in the whole world. I have never revealed this to anyone. There is a forest at the end of the city. You need to go at night, so no one sees you. If you go through the bushes and trees, and brave the thorns, and forge a path through the forest for a few difficult hours, you will come to a clearing. If you dig in that clearing, you will find a treasure of gold coins that I put there for you, worth millions of dollars. This will be more than enough money for you to live comfortably for the rest of your life. (I had to hide it in that place, so no one else will steal it.)"

So you start out on the journey, and it starts raining, and you are scared and wet, and it's dark, and you get scratched by the thorns and you're tired and weary... But you press on... Do you start cursing out your friend for being "selfish"? Of course not! You understand what an amazing friend you have who wants you to live in comfort for the rest of your life! What is a few hours of struggle and pain compared to the rest of your life? Look what a treasure your friend hid there for you!

So think about it. This short life of 80-90 years, compared to ETERNITY. Hashem has revealed to us in the Torah the secret to everlasting LIFE and JOY. If we just press on and trust that we are on the right path, and we trust that He truly is our best friend Who means ONLY our good, then we can make this difficult journey with JOY in SPITE of the pain.

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Tu Bishvat
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In general in Israel, Tu Bishvat day dawns cold, wet and dreary. Sometimes there is snow. One thing is definite: spring is nowhere in sight.

Except for the almond tree. Every year, the almond tree is in bloom, with its delicate and fragile looking blossoms standing out in stark contrast to the harsh winter conditions. Sometimes the flowers are powdered with snow, often the strong winter winds have the trees battling to remain standing.

Yet somehow, those softest of blossoms manage to withstand everything, and continue clinging to the branches which are their lifeline.

I think that in so many ways, this under-appreciated chag has some of the deepest lessons to teach us.

The purpose of Tu B'Shvat is to celebrate renewal and hope. Sure there are still about 2 hard months ahead of us before the warmth of spring takes over. But Hashem is telling us something so important. Yes, all looks dark. The trees are bare, the grass seems dead and renewal seems impossible in this stark landscape. But focus on that almond tree. Its our symbol that despite what we see - darkness and despair - things are happening which we can not yet see. The seeds are long sown, and under the ground, far from our vision, they are starting to awaken and grow so that when the time is right, they will suddenly pop out from the ground and the world will be awash in a kaleidoscope of color!

Our problems - individual as well as national - have led us to the darkest part of galus, and total winter surrounds us. But the seeds of geulah are long sown, and in realms beyond our understanding, things are sprouting and growing. And when we least expect it, mashiach will arrive, heralding a new spring and new beginning.

We must all be those almond blossoms, holding on despite the raging winds and bitter cold. Because geulah is around the corner and we will be the very first to greet it!

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Masturbating if there is no wasting of seed?
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If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

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