E-Mail Subject: You've already won
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1802  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
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Announcements: Women's Support
Torah: Go For the Gold!
Announcements: SPECIAL APPEARANCE BY RABBI DONIEL KATZ
Daily Dose of Dov: You've Already Won
 
 
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Announcements
 
Women's Support
 

Miriam is celebrating 10 years of being of service for Guard Your Eyes and as a token of appreciation to the community of S-Anon and SA, she would like to give back by interviewing ladies who can not afford her full price fee and let them get her service of support and recovery by paying a minimal fee of $40 instead of $125. For 3 ladies only.

To see if you are eligible to get this gift you may call directly to Miriam 214-446-1828 or email and she will get back with you.

Torah
 
Go For the Gold!
 
Part 1/2
 
By Yaakov from GYE

Baal Shem Tov (the original below) advises us about a change of paradigm when we are triggered by an object of our lust. Contemplate about the source of this person's beauty: Isn't it G-d Himself? And if so, why settle for a mere part (chelek), why lust after an external beauty or pleasure, when I can choose to lust after the Source of All pleasures?

Bal Shem

When we lust, we are really looking for "connection" with something beautiful. But we will never find it in flesh and blood, it's like a mirage in the desert that the thirsty person is sure that it's water, but when he gets closer and tries to take it, there's nothing but hot-air there.

The beauty and connection we seek are really the vibes of our souls, yearning for connection with the source of all beauty. Yes, this isn't always an easy frame of mind to maintain, it takes EMUNAH. But the more we work towards this Emunah, the more success we'll have in staying away from looking at things we shouldn't and lusting after them.

As I was contemplating this idea, Hashem showed me this Mishna:

mishna

To be continued...
Announcements
 
SPECIAL APPEARANCE BY RABBI DONIEL KATZ
 

A VERY RARE AND SPECIAL APPEARANCE BY A WORLD RENOWNED GUEST SPEAKER

RABBI DONIEL KATZ

“Serenity - We have a Prayer for it…

How do we get it and how do we keep it?"

on this Wednesday January 17 at NOON (EST) GYE

Conference Call with Duvid Chaim.

Call (641) 715-3836 Access code 637207#

For both Men and Women

Why is Serenity so elusive??

I may find Serenity and enjoy it for a short time, but why won’t it stay with me?”

“WHAT IS THE CONNECTION BETWEEN SERENITY AND SOBRIETY??"

MEET RAV DONIEL KATZ

Rabbi, Visionary, Master Educator, Fellow Seeker

For more than a decade, Rav Doniel’s open and compassionate teachings have been a catalyst for change in the lives of thousands of people worldwide. Born and raised in Australia, Rav Doniel abandoned his award-winning film and theatre career in his mid-twenties after a year of intensive spiritual awakening.

Rav Doniel has lectured extensively around the world for the last 10 years, during which time he was also a faculty member at Neve Yerushalayim and Aish HaTorah in Jerusalem. In addition, he spoke at a 2015 symposium on science and the meditational tools of Abrahamic traditions at the Mind & Life Institute in Massachusetts; was invited by the Chief Rabbi of South Africa to speak at the Sinai Indaba conference in Johannesburg and Cape Town, during which over 5000 people attended his Elevation Project sessions; and presented at the 2016 Wisdom 2.0 conference in Tel Aviv.

The Elevation Project brings together Jews and seekers from all walks of life with a single goal: to explore the Torah’s definitive map of human psychology and consciousness on an experiential level. We’ve synthesized and systemized the most transformative teachings of Kabbalah, Chassidus, Mussar and Talmud into an easy-to-follow, step-by-step learning experience that combines to create a profound path of accelerated spiritual development.

YOU WON’T WANT TO MISS THIS LIFE CHANGING MESSAGE

FROM A MAN WHO HAS GUIDED OTHERS TO REAL SERENITY

Please mark your calendars now - you won't want to miss this Event!

Daily Dose of Dov
 
You've Already Won
 
To someone who wrote that he feels like he is in a slippery place:
 
By Dov

Ashrecha! You have an ongoing, open-ended license to 'fall'. That will not go away. Even cutting off body parts will not take it away, cuz there will always be a way...

So, ashrecha v'ashrecha that you are reaching out in time of pain or trouble... What else do you expect to really do after so much practice with hiding? You have 'won' already, in my opinion.

Anyone can wish he'd "finally quit and get better", but people make this giant leap from the "silently aching and wishing stage", to the "really wanting freedom" stage, and some even expect to just automatically find themselves at the "totally through-with-it and giving-the-stupid-lust-up already" stage. I think that's totally unrealistic, really.

It seems obvious to me that had I not gone to meetings and talked out the facts about myself and what I really want, they'd have remained bottled up in my head and never, ever had a chance to become real - i.e. to become attached to my behavior. Feelings are cheap. And while talk is cheap as well, there is something to 'hearing my own mouth describe me' that does something. It brings it a little step closer to the real reality: my actions. When I consistently see it in my actions, I will know that it is coming at least a little bit from my heart, my ikkar - not just from my brain. Having a pretty brain is nice, but anyone can be no'eh doreish, right? For addicts and the like, no'eh doreish was where it all stopped. Here on GYE, we can share the unattractive stuff about ourselves - the stuff about us that scares the h--- out ourselves. (And sharing it with real, live people helps us out even more! Machshova, then dibbur, then ma'aseh... As it says: "b'ficho - then bilvov'cha la'asoso".

So take it easy, trust Him to help you, and keep trucking (not 'fighting', trucking!)

Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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