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  Breaking Free Chizuk #1699  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
Video of the Day: Porn's Effect on Young Men
12 Step Attitude: The 12 Steps or the 10 Commandments - which will keep you sober?
Torah: The Power of the 3 Weeks
Editor’s Note: Worried about YouTube? Every parent needs this simple solution
Practical Tips: Vatibuka Ha'ir - A Breach in Our Walls
 
 
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Video of the Day
 

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Porn's Effect on Young Men

University of Toronto Psychology Professor Jordan Peterson. Short and to the point.

12 Step Attitude
 
The 12 Steps or the 10 Commandments - which will keep you sober?
 
By Duvid Chaim

"Join us on Monday, July 10th and all week for our Launch into the Twelve Steps - Chapter 5 - How it Works"

“90% of the people who attend the Twelve Steps Meetings don't really understand the Twelve Steps!”

Are you part of the 10% or the 90%?!

It's not an exaggeration! I've attended many 12 Step Meetings and I am surprised how few of the attendees really know the accurate or deeper meaning of the Twelve Steps.

Do you know:

  • How Bill Wilson really wanted to write Step One?

  • What is the Cause & Effect of Addictive Behavior?

  • What really is the meaning of Unmanageability?

  • What is "Sanity"?

  • What are our "Will and our Lives"?

  • What's the difference between "Wrongs", "Defects of Character" and "Shortcomings"

  • What's G-d's Part in Recovery? What is our part?

  • What "muscles" do we need to exercise to Recover?

  • Once we're sober, how do we stay sober?

  • I'm a Frum Jew! What the heck can Bill Wilson teach me about Prayer?

  • Do I really need a Sponsor? Do I really need a Sponsee?

  • What really is the GOAL of the 12 Step Program?

Join us on the Monday Noon Call - beginning July 10 - and all week to get answers to all these questions!

THE CALL IN NUMBER IS:(641) 715-3836

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Torah
 
The Power of the 3 Weeks
 
By GYE

The Zohar (in Chelek Beis, pg 78b) writes that Yakov Avinu took the months of Nissan and Iyar for himself (hence Yetziyas Mitzrayim, Kabbalas Hatorah), and Eisav took the months of Tamuz and Av for himself (and hence, the 17th of Tamuz and Tisha Be'av), but only the first 9 days of Av belong to him.

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Editor’s Note
 
Worried about YouTube? Every parent needs this simple solution

This information came from a full article on ProtectYoungMinds.org

Kids are routinely bombarded with inappropriate, pornographic videos on YouTube. Unfortunately, when someone uploads an “adult” video without selecting “Enable Age Restriction,” YouTube’s Safety Mode won’t filter it out. That means your kids could be watching a perfectly innocent video, but get perfectly filthy videos advertised to them by YouTube!

What’s the answer?

SafeShare.tv!

Here’s exactly how to use SafeShare.tv. It couldn’t be any easier!

  • Find a YouTube video you want to share.
  • Highlight the link (place the cursor in the link and press the Ctrl and A keys) from the address bar
  • Copy it by (by pressing the Ctrl and C keys)
  • Open up SafeShare.tv
  • Paste the YouTube link into the “Paste a YouTube Video or Vimeo link” field (by putting the cursor in the field and pressing the Ctrl and V keys)
  • Click on the blue “Generate Safe View” button to the right of the link field
  • The new link will appear in the upper address bar.
  • Highlight this newly generated link and copy it
  • Paste it wherever you want to share it–on social media, in an email, in a text message, etc.
Practical Tips
 
Vatibuka Ha'ir - A Breach in Our Walls
 
Part 1/2
 
After a stumble with Facebook, "Momo" posted:
 
By GYE

I need to learn from my fall, and this past fall has taught me that I have to cancel my Facebook account. It's really a waste of time anyway. The only reason I've been keeping the account is to see what's new in my friend's lives, see new photos of their kids, and have all of their email addresses in one spot. So I'll be "out of the loop". I'll miss someone's birthday. I'll miss a cute photo of a kid smiling. It's NOT worth it if it's going to trigger me to fall. I'm too sick to be on Facebook.

The next day "Momo" wrote:

Yesterday I said that I'd deactivate my Facebook account, and I did. Right before I did that, I said a prayer that with the z'chut of this action, HaShem should help everyone who's on this forum. Then, while I was doing the deactivation, the Y"H started voicing his objections "come on..." I countered by singing (in my head) a niggun really loudly. I felt very proud of myself after I did it, until I received a notice from Facebook that I can always activate my account again simply by signing in.

After searching the net, I found that you CAN request to have your account permanently deleted, and I did this too. Here's the link.

Dear Momo,

Now that we don't have the Beis Hamikdash, Hashem looks for the Korbon Tamid every day in different places... In Shamayim it was announced: "Today Momo brought a Korbon for Hashem by sacrificing FaceBook on the Mizbe'ach of his heart!"

Everyone, learn from this Tzadik! In honor of Shiva Asar Bi'Tamuz, let's delete access to Facebook, Youtube, GoogleVideo, etc.. anything that is a stumbling block for us now, or has been in the past: don't let there be breaches in our walls!

"VA'TITAV LAHASHEM MISHOR POR -
and it shall be sweeter to Hashem than oxen and cattle!"

To be continued...
Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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