Cling to Hashem. Sounds easy.
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1631  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
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Announcements: SSA Conference Call
Testimonials: 90 days sober after 30 years of acting out
Announcements: Big Book Study Group for Women
12 Step Attitude: Cling to Hashem
 
 
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Announcements
 
SSA Conference Call
 

Hey Everyone!

I am happy to announce that this coming Tuesday March 7, from 10:45-11:30 am EST*, a new cycle for the SSA (same-sex attractions) conference call will begin! If you struggle with SSA please join us, especially if you have never attended these calls before. If you already have and want to go through the cycle again, you are no doubt welcome to join too!

These calls aim to provide a balanced, clear, and understandable perspective regarding what men can do to move beyond their struggle of unwanted same-sex attractions. Some of the discussions include: why we may develop sexual attractions all together, how to reduce lust towards men and reach a better sense of peace and wholeness within ourselves, what kind of process can we take to ultimately develop attractions for the opposite-sex, and how we can all go on this journey with respect, authenticity, and integrity within Torah and religious values.

You can find all of the call details at this link: https://guardyoureyes.com/component/zoo/item/ssa-conference

May we all have much hatzlacha and bracha moving forward and I look forward to having you on our new cycle this coming Tuesday!

-Jonathan Hoffman, MSW - Leader of GYE SSA Conference Calls
(If you have any questions about this call, please don't hesitate to contact me at jhoffmantherapy@gmail.com)

*Please note: This new cycle was originally announced to begin February 28, but that is no longer the case and this coming Tuesday March 7 will be the 1st call of this cycle

Testimonials
 
90 days sober after 30 years of acting out
 
By GYE Member

I have been an addict forever. It started when I was 14 and now I'm 44, so it's been 30 years.

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Announcements
 
Big Book Study Group for Women
 

Zissy's Big Book Study Group For Struggling Women

Every Monday, 12 pm EST

"How we have Recovered" - Focusing on the solution, not the problem.

Zissy has been on live calls through saapp.org for a while, and has worked the steps with a sponsor. Now she wants to share what she has with other suffering female addicts.

Dial In Number:
U.S: (515) 739-1514
Israel: 055 966-1084
U.K: 0330 998-1254

Access Code: (Only shared with women. Contact Zissy at yiddishemomy@gmail.com)

12 Step Attitude
 
Cling to Hashem
 
By Be Holy

I want to share with you a beautiful excerpt from an eye-opening article that someone shared with me recently about the different type of 12-Step groups that exist today:

What the original AAs were shooting for - and what they aimed their program at - was not mere sobriety. That would have been the "common-sense" approach, the way of worldly wisdom, the reasonable-level-of-aspiration gambit. But the founders of AA were men moved by inspiration. They were coming at the problem with the uncommon sense of men under guidance.

The common-sense approach had already been tried and it had failed. If you set a drunk's level of aspiration at mere abstinence - "'Why don't you be a good fellow, use your will power; and give the stuff up" - it did not work. The poor candidate for reform was back drinking again in short order. The discovery that launched AA in the first place was that if an alcoholic were somehow to be rocketed into a state way beyond abstinence, if he were to achieve a real spiritual conversion, an utterly new relationship with God, then permanent abstinence would automatically occur as a blessed and life-saving by-product. That was how it happened with Bill. That was how it happened with Dr. Bob. That was how it happened with most of the first hundred members.

For the full article see here.

And "Be-holy" posted something along similar lines on the forum yesterday (edited for clarity):

B"H I am still holding strong and I hope everyone is gaining on their mission to be free. Things have been up and down recently. It's getting easier, but I still feel the y"h turning inside of me. Be that as it may, I sometimes get down when this happens. But yesterday it occurred to me; that contradiction within us is the sand that grinds away at the clam, producing a beautiful pearl. In other words, if we never felt down and were ALWAYS up, we would never really be pushed to grow. Therefore, those feelings shouldn't let us get down but rather make us aware of our present state, and show us on which areas we need to continue to work.

I truly believe with all my heart, that the only way we will ultimately remain happy when all is said and done, is to fill that void constantly with ahavas Hashem (love of G-d) and avodas Hashem (service of G-d) every moment of the day. The only way we will feel good in the long term, is not just from the sur m'rah (staying away from bad) - because that will wear off in time, but rather by aseh tov (doing good) by making every moment of our lives a connection to Hashem, every seder and every davening, and by maintaining a constant awareness that we can - and are - in service of G-d 24/7, be it on the street or in the house, etc...

Some may think that this is way beyond us, but think of it this way; Didn't our addiction cause us to always be on the lookout 24/7 for that girl on the street or more of that filth on the internet? This addiction was also a constant awareness, so now we can turn it on its head and use this "constant awareness" for the good!

We are fighting the Yetzer Hara who is a mighty warrior. He has the arsenal of knowing our nature better than we know ourselves! The only advice is to cling to Hashem, pour our hearts our to him and constantly find new ways to bring our divine service to greater heights. This is the only true, time tested answer to all of our problems.

With all my prayers and admiration to my fellow warriors, may tomorrow shine a new light on tzion and all of our souls yearning to "be holy".

Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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