Dear GYE Family, 

Dov, who has been sober in SA since 1997, and who has had the experience of speaking with thousands of struggling Yidden these past 20 years, is right here on GYE offering to speak with you for an entire hour every day from 8am - 9am EST. (See more info on the call here).

You can discuss your deepest fears and secrets with Dov on the call, or send him your questions beforehand at wequithiding2@gmail.com.

Last week we had some nice calls, you can listen to recordings here.

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But today, this Monday, there was NO ONE on the call!

WHAT?!
Do you guys realize what an incredible opportunity this is?? Dov is worth his weight in gold! In MNSHO, he is wiser, more experienced and better than any therapist, and GYE is offering this opportunity for free to y'all and no one is taking advantage of this?!
I am shocked.
I think we may as well just close down GYE.

It seems no one is using the site anymore.

And don't talk to me about sleeping-in late on Chanukah. Tell that excuse to the Greeks!

A Freilichen Chanuka!

How was the first Chanuka Light by you?

By me, it was amazing, B''H, there was this clean feeling - sitting by the candles, connecting to myself and to Hashem, trying to keep my little boy occupied at the same time, wonderful family time and wonderful Hashem time!!!

This Shabbes, the old drives started to come up, in forms of old pictures and videos. B''H, I managed to steer my thoughts to other places; the thing that kept me at bay, not to go into the circles {I do want - no, I don't want}, was the amazing TaPHSiC Method program.

It was just by the Chanuka Licht, I realized why the YH went on such an assault today! It was the last day chance to get me before Chanuka, imagine how I would have felt if I would have fallen after working nearly a whole month on Clean Kislev Project - Lekoved Chanuka, just to fall 1 day before Chanuka!!!!!!!!!
I would have been Broke!

Don't worry, I don't think that the YH forgot me - he is still at work. So somewhere this week, I'll have to renew my Shvua, as it is expiring on Rosh Chodesh Teves.

My Name is TC and I Have an Eating Disorder

Chanukah is about Messiras Nefesh. The Jewish people merited the miracles of Chanukah through the self-sacrifice of the few Macabees (Macabee stands for "Mi Kamocha Ba'Eilim Hashem - Who is like you amongst the mighty, Oh G-d!"). They were willing to give their lives for the sanctity of the Jewish people. They knew they stood no chance alone, only the power of Hashem could do it for them. They gave their lives to G-d, and were willing to die for the cause - and that is why they merited great miracles.

This trait of Messiras Nefesh in the Jewish people goes back to Avraham Avinu who was willing to be thrown into the furnace of Nimrod rather than bow down to idols. The first documented case of Messiras Nefesh in the Torah is the story of Akeidas Yitzchak.

It is brought down in the Seffarim that Yosef Hatzadik's test with the wife of Potifar was an extremely difficult test. Hashem put all possible seductions and temptations into this one test. How was Yosef able to overcome it? He pictured in his mind, that if Hashem would ask him to give his life on the Mizbe'ach like he had asked his grandfather Yitzchak, would he want to be a blemished sacrifice? No! And if he would be willing to lay his life down for Hashem, could he not at least give up this temptation? Yes! And that is what gave him the strength to be victorious.

Perhaps that is why the test of Yossef is read around the time of Chanukah each year.

We are faced with great temptations every day. Let us remember the Messiras Nefesh of the Maccabees. Let us remind ourselves, that as Jews, we would be willing to be thrown into fire and not bow down to idols. Lust is like idol worship. As Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai told his talmidim when a beautiful woman walked by: "Al Tifnu El Ha'Elilim - do not turn to false G-ds". If we would be willing to give our lives for Hashem, can we not at least give up on our unhealthy lusting?

We on GYE are the Maccabees of our generation! We are the few against the many, the weak against the mighty. The multi billion dollar lust peddling industries out there are trying to destroy the Jewish people from the inside - "Le'Ha'avirum Me'al Chukei Ritzonecha". But we won't give in. We are willing to give our lives for our beliefs, so surely we are willing to give up these desires for Hashem!

Let us accept upon ourselves today: No more YouTube. No more Face-Book. No more non-Jewish news-sites, magazines, newspapers and movies. All of these things are full of triggers. They are the tools of war that 'Yavan' uses to insert it's tentacles into our Jewish minds and souls. This is a fight for our very Neshamos!

Chanukah is a very holy time. It is a time for Messiras Nefesh. A time for decisions.

Mi La'Hashem Elai!

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.