Here are the "Four Simplified Steps for Hitbodedut" to help you get started:

In a quiet place, with no interruptions, simply talk freely to Hashem in your own words, like to your parent

1) First thank Hashem for what He's given you (does your body work? Thank Him. Do you have a home? Thank Him. Do you have a family? Thank Him. Food to eat? Clothes? Parnosa? A spouse? Kids? Thank Hashem for everything!)

...And- don't forget to thank Him for all the mitzvot that He helps you to do each day, & for any special qualities and positive attributes you have!

2) Tell Hashem all your struggles, all your triumphs, all your worries, and thank Him for all your good deeds

3) Confess your aveiros and resolve not to repeat them. Ask for His help in this!

4) Now ask for ANYTHING you need! It's an Eis Ratzon!!!!

And besides your personal requests, please take a minute also to ask Hashem to help Klal Yisroel, that everyone everywhere in the world should begin davening to Hashem, opening their hearts to Him in thanks, praise, and teshuva, so the Geula will come!

There are people that suffer terribly from self-hatred. Many even can hear or imagine an inner voice tormenting and criticizing them. For some, there are words that go along with the self hatred, even full sentences ring in their head such as:

Dealing with "stinking thinking" and moods #2

If we truly realized and internalized that our emotions are 100% coming from our thinking, that there is 100% correlation between our thinking and our feelings, there would be many positive implications and ramifications.

One major ramification is that we would "take off the hook" many of the external factors we blame for the way we feel. The deeper we would get it, the more fully we would let go of blaming external factors for the way we feel.

Do you see that?

There is only one culprit for the way we feel - our thinking.

More to come...

Thank you for everything!

You have no idea the revolution this website caused. Just from my end, with God’s help, a Yid held back from going off, and a couple, who were ready to divorce, are working things out.

Who knows how many people have been helped and are being helped in your zchus!!!!

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.