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Daily Dose of Dov: Getting Out of Hashem's Way
Links: Video #16 - Dumb Deer
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Struggling with SSA? Read this important announcement about the weekly GYE SSA Conference call

Big yasher koach to everyone who has participated throughout our last conference call cycle. We had 11 phone calls.

Two important announcements for the call:

1) Tomorrow May 10, there will be a final 12th call for the cycle that will entail Q&A's for questions received since the last call. This will be the final call for this cycle.

2) The following week May 17, a new cycle will begin! That means if you are new here and struggle with unwanted SSA (same-sex attractions), it will be an opportune time to join this conference call, every Tuesday at 10:45-11:30 am EST. You can find out more info about the call here: https://guardyoureyes.com/component/zoo/item/ssa-conference


Daily Dose of Dov
Getting Out of Hashem's Way
Why do we need to "get out of Hashem's way and allow him to help us"?
By GYE Corp.

To me, "getting out of His way" is something we slowly begin to do in recovery. Using schmutz is our way of staying in control. Arranging to get exactly what we want when we want it, avoiding pain whenever we wish, and manipulating the environment to make it exciting when we are bored! Yippee. We essentially replace G-d. We serve Lust, because it is pretty reliable. Especially the bodily part of it. Y'know, put my "quarter" in, and voila! I can make it happen. Oy vei, gevalt. Eventually it becomes a daily, full-time preoccupation. A hidden life of private moments with complete devotion, even with sacrifice, expense and pain.

Y'know.... it sounds just like our yiddishkeit is supposed to be: "hatzneyah leches im Hashem Elokecha", korban tamid, mitzvos t'midios, mesiras nefesh, etc. Uh oh.

Recovery turns this around and we sail in the other direction, for real, not just on the outside... no more hypocrisy. (Failure and imperfection, yes... but not hypocrisy).


These 19 short videos clips are excerpts from a series on theshmuz.com by Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier called "The Fight - A Frank Strategy and Pan for Conquering Desire".

Gathering from the wisdom of chazal, this series presents a solid understanding of the mechanics of desire, and offers us a strategy and plan to winning The Fight of our Generation.

Video #16 - Dumb Deer


"When I would drive with my children, I would often point out interesting things along the side of the road to them. And often I'd be observing things to point out to them. We were driving at dusk, sort of twilight one night, and up ahead I saw a deer. And I was just about to say to my children look at that beautiful deer, when I saw the most astonishing thing. The deer kind of sat back and waited, and just at the right time it sprung out right in front of my van. Smash — I crashed into the deer. Baruch Hashem nobody was hurt. The deer fell off to the side of the road, and I said to myself dumb deer! What was it thinking?..."

Click the link above for the full story and video.

Email us if you don't have internet access, and we will send you the story by email. (sorry, we can't send the video.)

Do you think you may have a porn addiction?

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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