What role do you play in modern-day slavery?
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1445  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
Image of the Day: Are you a Slave Master?
Editor’s Note: Important note on conference call times.
Q & A: How can I stop, I want it more than anything else?!
Practical Tips: Shmiras Einayim Travel Tip: Las Vegas
Prevention: 25 Steps to Beating Porn Addiction
 
 
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Image of the Day
 
Are you a Slave Master?
 
Are you a Slave Master?
Editor’s Note
 
Important note on conference call times.

Dear GYE family,

please note that the US has gone on Daylight Savings Time - so for this week and next week, those attending should be aware that the regularly scheduled Conference Calls are all based on EDT times - therefore, for example, if you live in Israel or Europe,

Duvid Chaim’s Noon Call will be at 6:00 pm.

 

FYI, Israel springs forward on March 25th and Europe springs forward on March 27th.

Q & A
 
How can I stop, I want it more than anything else?!
 
By GYE

Dear Yid,

You have a disease called addiction, which means that your brain has become hyper-sexual by the pathways carved by the chemicals released over years when doing these behaviors. You see, the brain needs to find balance. So when a person begins engaging in these kind of behaviors often, the brain compromises and learns to balance itself in spite of these chemicals. That means that if you try to STOP now, your brain will feel unbalanced! That is what causes withdrawal at first, until the brain gets used to being normal again. The addiction causes you to be super-aroused by the slightest hint of lust, because any lust causes the chemicals to start flowing. The brain tricks you into believing that you NEED this and CRAVE this more than anything in the world, and you must act to get your "fix". But it is all a lie. The actually pleasure of an orgasm is no better than a bar of chocolate. But for an addict, the lust that surrounds the experience is a drug; a release of chemicals that the brain has learned to rely on to keep it's balance. Once you recognize this, you will begin to understand why chazal say that the LESS YOU FEED IT, THE LESS YOU WILL NEED IT.

Then you will be ready to take the jump into recovery.

On the other hand, the more you keep giving in, the more deeply engraved the pathways become and the more dependent your brain becomes on these chemicals, hence, harder to break free. The addiction NEVER gets enough. It is NEVER satisfied. You could have everything you dream you want yet you would still be desperate for more, for better, always chasing that elusive "perfect" female with the "perfect" body parts, and "perfect" situation. It will drive you insane until it slowly destroys your life, your ruchniyus, your gashmius, your marriage and your name... and it won't be satisfied till your DEAD.

וְהָיִיתָ מְשֻׁגָּע מִמַּרְאֵה עֵינֶיךָ אֲשֶׁר תִּרְאֶה

Hit bottom while still on top, and recognize lust for what it really is: A dangerous drug.

Practical Tips
 
 
Shmiras Einayim Travel Tip: Las Vegas
 
Prevention
 
 
25 Steps to Beating Porn Addiction
 

Please check out the full guide to beating porn addiction in this and upcoming issues (For the first in the series, please refer to issue #1436). The creators of theinfographic have taken each of the 25 strategies and provided clear practical actions to take in detail:

BLOCK PORN ON YOUR SMARTPHONE OR TABLET

    There are number of apps that block the internet on the iPhone or iPad. The most effective solution is to remove browsers from the device altogether.

    You can do this by on the Iphone by going into settings, clicking on general, scrowling down to restrictions, click on enable restrictions, which allows you to set a passcode. You can then block Safari and set an age limit for apps so you can’t download other web browsers from the app store.

    Make sure you have backed up your IPhone and IPad before you do this. And remember you need to forget the four digit passcode immediatley. Or get someone else to write it for you.

    On Android smartphones, you can use an app called TitaniumBackup which allows you to freeze browsers. You can also automate your phone with Tasker or Automate. With all of these options, you will be able to set a time when the Wi-Fi and mobile data settings will automatically turn off. You can also set up location specific blocks.

Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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