I've reached 90. Now what?
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1437  
In Today's Issue
Image of the Day: Progress AFTER perfection
Torah: Safeguard our lives
Announcements: Another Great Talk by Dov
Links: 3 Part Series on Guarding the Eyes by R. Avi Wiesenfeld
Prevention: 25 Steps to Beating Porn Addiction
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Should I continue working the GYE program after I have reached 90 days?

Progress AFTER perfection
Progress AFTER perfection
Safeguard our lives

The Zohar, Shemot 3b , states: We have learned that the Holy One Blessed Be He has no zealousness, except for His zealousness over the holy Brit, for this Brit is the secret of the Sacred Name and the secret of faith. As is written, 'And the people began to commit harlotry with the daughters of Moav' (Bamidbar, 25:1), then, immediately afterward, 'And the anger of the L-rd was kindled against Israel.'" Sexual immorality brings about a kindling of the anger of G-d.

The Zohar emphasizes that it was through the Brit with Avraham Avinu that Israel made its initial attachment to with the Holy One Blessed Be He, through the act of circumcision and the Covenant to safeguard our lives in sexual purity. Judaism is founded upon this Covenant. This is our connection to the Shechinah. Thus, Rabbi Shimon explains, a Jew who is false to this Brit is false to our Covenant with G-d.

Another Great Talk by Dov

Dov, who is sober in SA for more than 18 years, will be giving another talk on Wed, March 2, titled:

"Some kavanos of a recovering sexaholic:
A discussion on the daily Siddur”

On the relevance of tefillah and its misuse, as well as ways that recovery sometimes changes davening.

March 2, Wednesday afternoon at 5pm EST

Call in number: 641-715-3836

Participant Access-Code: 651874#

This talk will be another angle on the challenge of recovery for the frum yid, as compared with the talk called
"Is recovery easier or harder for a frum person?" (given on Feb 11, 2016).


This link will direct you to downloadable audio from ToraAnytime.com

3 Part Series on Guarding the Eyes by R. Avi Wiesenfeld
25 Steps to Beating Porn Addiction


Please check out the full guide to beating porn addiction in this and upcoming issues (For the first in the series, please refer to issue #1436). The creators of the infographic have taken each of the 25 strategies and provided clear practical actions to take in detail:

  1. Porn can damage your life. The facts you can’t ignore

  2. Watching porn damages your relationships and health and reduces your brain power. The evidence is compelling. Study after study shows the same conclusions

    Watching porn makes you an unhappier, less active and attractive and less effective person.

    Researchers from the Max Planck Institute in Berlin found the part of the brain controlling motivation and reward, shrinks and works less efficiently in people who use porn. The study found that people who watched more than four hours a week were found to be less able to make decisions, less able to enjoy sex and were likely to be less motivated in their lives generally.

    The rise of internet porn is also making men more sexist, viewing women as objects and failing to understand that the whole woman is so much more interesting and wonderful than the make-believe and disturbing reality in porn. If you want to find out more about the devastating impact of sexism on women visit this informative and eye-opening website: Every Day Sexism.

    • Damages normal relationships
    • Destroys normal pleasurable sexual experience with a partner
    • Creates negative sexual tastes and behaviors
    • Creates destructive sexist attitudes towards women
    • Causes depression and anxiety
    • Causes erectile dysfunction in more than 50% of men
    • Causes loss of memory and concentration
    • An inability to enjoy normal everyday pleasures
    • Can make you lose friends, perform poorly at work and at study


Do you think you may have a porn addiction?

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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